The Moment I Became A Moms in the Making Leader

Who knew a book could change the course of your life? Besides the Bible, this is the only time a book has steered my life in a new direction.

In October 2018, Grant and I had been trying to start our family for over a year and a half. I was finally coming to terms that I was actually walking through infertility. Infertility is when you have been trying for a year or more, but still unable to get pregnant. In the beginning, I told myself it was just taking longer than normal. That past November I had seen my family doctor, and she said everything looked normal, so I had no reason to think differently. Little did I realize there were significant signs that things were not alright. I might have gotten help sooner if there were a flashing neon sign that said, “That’s NOT NORMAL.” But that story of what we found out when we finally went to an Reproductive Endocrinologist is for another day.

After coming to terms with my journey, I began looking up articles on Pinterest about infertility. Advice columns, books to read, pills to take. Stumbling upon the book In Due Time by Caroline Harris, I asked my sister to give it to me as a birthday present.

After diving into my new devotional, I became curious about the author, Caroline Harris. I took to the internet and Instagram to learn who this lady was. Minutes later, I stumbled upon the group she divinely created called Moms in the Making. Browsing for almost an hour on their website, I found that prayer partner sign ups were about to begin. Cautiously, I clicked the link to sign up. At this point, I had only one friend who was walking through infertility. I didn’t know of any success stories, and I was longing for community. Back and forth I went from filling out the form to completely disregarding it. After completing it out for the fifth time, I hit submit. That day in December was about to change my life.

January 2019 rolled around and my first prayer partner contacted me. God knew I needed it to be Stephanie Kaiser because her open loving heart was just what I needed in my life. We became instant friends through texting, and she was the one who encouraged me to join the Moms in the Making Virtual Group since there wasn’t an in-person group around me. I joined the group and was amazed by how many other women were on a similar journey as me. Women who knew how I felt and had advice to share. Women who encouraged me and helped my faith grow.

Meeting Stephanie for the first time at the 2019 Moms in the Making Conference.

Then April 2019 rolled around and I could feel God calling me into something greater. Moms in the Making was taking applications to lead an in-person group. At this point, we had just hit two years of trying. I didn’t know how much longer we would walking this path (I still don’t), but I knew I didn’t want my time to be wasted. God was calling me to share with others the love I had received from my Moms in the Making group.

While I knew I was called to lead, it wasn’t still nerve-racking.

What if no one came to my group? What if I wasn’t a good leader? What if I said the wrong things?

On the very last day, I took a deep breathe and hit submit. I knew God would open the doors if he wanted me to walk through them. I turned my fears over to God and knew only He could orchestrate this group into existence. He would give women the courage to come. He would equip me to lead. He would guide my words.

Through many interviews and prayers, I found out in June 2019 that I would be Kansas’ first Moms in the Making Leader! Up to this point, there had been no other groups in Kansas. Moms in the Making announced my group in July 2019, and the support I received from my small town community was overwhelming. People shared my posts and told others about the group. People prayed for my group and offered to help in any way.

When the first night of group rolled around, I was still very nervous, but joy invaded my soul as me and four other women introduced ourselves and shared our stories. The Spirit was at work because when the ladies left it felt as if these women I had known forever.

The original McPherson Moms in the Making Group

Peace. Joy. Comfort. When you walk into God’s goodness, there is no better feeling. Saying yes to this opportunity has been one of the greatest blessings to me. Not that it all has been easy, because it hasn’t. God doesn’t call us to easy. I've had to grow and mold into a leader. I still am growing and molding. By no means am I naturally born a leader, but God equips us. He uses every season. I’ve said this before, but I will say it again.

God doesn’t give infertility, but He will use. As we wait on the Lord, we are called to do what waiters do best…SERVE.